Why is this happening to me?

To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:

Ecclesiastes 3:1 KJV

Do you ever have one of those days or situations in life where you have to ask, “Why is this happening to me?”. Life is full of ups and downs and at times the downs seem to be at their lowest, whether it is our own fault or someone else’s. A bad day at work when everybody seems to be on your back. A relationship where the other person is nothing that you expected. Someone treating you badly for no reason. Some accusing you of something you didn’t do. Or perhaps something you are trying to accomplish and nothing is going right.

There are a million reasons why we shake our fists up in the air and yell, “Why me Lord, why me?” One reason is not better or worse than the other. The fact is that life drives us to ask this question over and over. And for a lot of Christians in the world we often wonder why got allows some of these things to happen.

Even for non believers or unsaved people, we tend to ask God to get us out of some messes or misery when the level of our problems, issues, or challenges are at their worst. A person that commits a crime and is getting ready to get caught sometimes pleads at that very moment to God to save them or help them. A person deep into drug addiction or alcoholism tends to ask for God’s help when they just can’t take it anymore. Even well to do people tend to ask God for help in situations at the last moment hoping He will give them the help or answers we desperately need.

Just to back it up for a moment and to pose another question…”If God loves us, why does He allow us to go through the pain and suffering we deal with in today’s times?” I often hear this a lot from people and I know what they are going through. It is hard to live a life in today’s “It’s all about me” lifestyle, and to wonder if it is all worth it and if there is a God, let alone wonder why He would allow things to happen.

The truth is very clear in the Bible. He loves us like nobody else can. He sacrificed His Son on the cross so that we may have forgiveness of our sins and eternal life with Him. But when we are struggling to get out of the situation we are in, it is hard to see this as a reality.

But to put in a better perspective on how much God loves us, He has declared us as all his children.

Behold, what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us, that we should be called the sons of God: therefore the world knoweth us not, because it knew him not.

1 John 3 KJV

Just like we are children (sons) of God, we also have children here on earth. The way we love our children is the same as God loves His children, only He loves us way more than we could ever imagine. Just like we don’t want our children to suffer in this world, neither does God want us to suffer.

Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort;

2 Corinthians 1:3 KJV

The truth is, that just like us, God wants to hear from his children, just like we want to hear from our own children. We know that our children do things that get themselves hurt and in trouble. Our children suffer in sorrow as well and we want to be there for them when they do. The same is for God. He allows us freewill to do the things we want. We make the decisions to do things that get us into predicaments that we care not to be in. And our Father, God, wants to help us and be there. And just like the world gets a hold of our children and offers them situations that we have no say in, the same goes for us. Death, sickness, war, poverty, famine just to name a few put us in a place of mental anguish and depression we had no choice in.

Now let me ask this. When your children come to you for help, are you not glad that they do? Are you not thankful it is you they call on for the help that you know and they know only you can provide.

The same goes with our Father in Heaven.

He did not create us just to be miserable. He created us out of Love. Just like we create our own children. We want what is best for our children. And our God in Heaven wants the same for us.

There is well know parable in the Bible called the “Prodical Son” which speaks of a son who leaves his father to go live a sinful lifestyle out in the world only to lose everything he owned. After wallowing with swines, eating the same things they did, he had had enough and went back to his father and asked for forgiveness and merchy which he gets more than he deserved. (Luke 15:11-32 KJV)

The father of this son was so happy to see him again that he through a feast in honor of his return.

The same things happens when we cry out to God for help. He is glad that we have finally come to him for help. Even if it takes a situation that no human could help or forgive us for, God can. And He will.

He has told us in His Word, the Bible, that we can lay all of our problems at His feet.

²⁸ Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
²⁹ Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.
³⁰ For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.

Matthew 11:28-30 KJV

And when we do this, we start a relationship with our Father. And this is what He wants from His children. Just as we want it from our own children. This relationship with God will work in our hearts and we will draw closer and closer to him. Again, this is what He wants. And we should want this too. It will cause us to see what God really wants us to do. Again, this is what He wants.

When we cry out, “Why me”, God just may be answering back “Because I love you and I want to help you, just come and ask Me”.

For me it was a life of drinking and drugs, that caused me to ask God, “Why me?”. Today I am a “Born again” Christian and am saved. I have hope for a future. I am still a sinner, but I have a relationship with Our Heavenly Father. Life will still be miserable at times, but I know I can lay my worries at His feet and let Him guide me on how to deal with them.

If you are going through some times in your life, and have to ask, “Why me?”, ask God to help you in the same breath and He will.

I say unto you, that likewise joy shall be in heaven over one sinner that repenteth, more than over ninety and nine just persons, which need no repentance.

Luke 15:7 KJV